Salam all. This is a long post. I am 25 and have been married almost two years (Husband Wife couple shirts). I know this is against Islam and have repented but I was in relationship with him since I was 14, when I started practicing I told him I cannot continue haram relationship and he was interested in marriage with me. During the haram relationship things were ok not great. For 3 months into the marriage he was great (honeymoon phase?). But after 3 months he became very distant, not fulfilling duties of husband, living a single bachelor lifestyle. I tried many times to communicate with him but it was like talking to a brick wall, he always shut off Football Chant. Any faults he had with me I worked on and changed for him. He would always change for a few weeks, then go back to his old ways.
About 6 months into the marriage, I went through his phone but came across him backbiting about me to his friends, jokes like all the girls he could get if he divorces me, adding girls on social media (he’s blocked me on his social media). What was worse, him conversing/joking with his family member about my younger sister and she wants to marry him (a woman’s body has no interest in him) and both of them liking her. I left him for two weeks, he said he was sorry and I suggested counseling. He was reluctant at first but did it…changed for a few weeks then went back to his ways. I was living so miserably with him in my inlaws house (they are lovely people) but I felt so trapped and suffocated. We were living like roommates, instead of husband and wife. Every time I tried to communicate or do things to improve the relationship he shut me down.
I’ve just seen the most appalling thread on Twitter, attacking my husband’s place (yet again) for not smiling. It’s well known she was badly bullied at school because of her teeth and the scars of bullying go deep.
She may well have had her teeth corrected but that doesn’t mean she sees herself in any other way than that of the bullied schoolgirl yet there are hundreds of nasty, spiteful, derogatory remarks about her all over Twitter and also on Facebook, so, it’s plain the bullying continues!
Her king and queen shirts name didn’t help either. Sporty, Scary, Ginger and Baby are ok but the name Posh set her apart from everyone. The word Posh implies you are above everyone so she suffers for that too.
Some said she should be smiling because she’s married to Husband. They have short memories considering the times he’s been accused of infidelity. Whether or not those stories are true, it’s nothing to smile about is it? I was bullied at school and that is why I hate to see this behaviour.
Why do people do it? Is it jealousy? Is it because they know she can’t answer them back? Is it because it makes them feel clever as they each try to outdo one another to make the next nasty remark?
Whatever their problem (and it IS their problem) I am sick of it! It is bullying, plain and simple! Which brings me to another thought : being rich and famous doesn’t make you immune to bullying!